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5 Ways Will and Jada are building Black Generational Wealth

BY TARYN ST.LOUIS, JULY 13, 2020

Jada and Will took their issues to the Red Table last week and we were all here for it! The personal entanglements of these Hollywood stars are now no secret. The internet went crazy with funny memes and opinions from all angles. Some were judgmental of Jada and were not afraid to voice their opinion that her actions were somewhat ‘predatory’ toward August, who is 21 years her younger, and plagued with a troubled past riddled with addiction and abuse. In all of this Will has maintained his composure, although it has been confirmed that he’s had many insecurities regarding his wife since her ‘friendship’ with legendary rap artist, Tupac Shakur.

So what do we do with all this information? It was given to us, freely, even though we didn’t ask for it. But in situations such as this, and like any other situation in Hollywood, we encourage our fans to find the lesson. Their contributions to the black community as a whole may be overshadowed right now, because of the relationship ‘drama’, but let’s not forget that Will and Jada have built a dynamic black family that is capable of handing down generational wealth. How?

By Marrying Black

Many would disagree with the notion that one has to marry black in order to hand down black generational wealth. But, think about it for a moment. Generational wealth comes from Families. If we have no families, there is no generational wealth to be passed on. To create black children, black families must exist. Will and Jada have produced a beautiful black family of five. The two children of their marriage, Jaden and Willow were born in 1998 and 2000 respectively. Black love was a vital component in this scenario, and Will and Jada do Love each other, no matter what it may look like to an outsider.

By Investing in their children’s education

Will and Jada began homeschooling their two children, Willow and Jaden, back in 2001. Pinkett Smith told Essence in 2005 that they made this decision due to their extensive travel schedule, and their dissatisfaction with the US Schooling system. “The school system in this country – public and private – is designed for the industrial age,” she said in an excerpt shared by People. “We’re in a technological age. We don’t want our kids to memorize. We want them to learn.” It’s obvious that it worked. Their non-traditional teaching methods allowed their children’s creative abilities to flourish.

By supporting their children

Will has been quite vocal over the years, expressing the productive ways in which himself and Jada, raise their children. They don’t ‘punish’ them, having decided that their children should be accorded responsibility from a young age. Their children are encouraged to be creative and honest about their personal style and not to resort to the ‘norms of society.’ They don’t give their children fashion advice either. Allowing them to be themselves in every way possible has fostered their children’s creative abilities. It’s obvious that their parenting techniques have brought some very creative youth into our lives. Jaden is a rapper, singer, songwriter, and actor, Willow is a singer, songwriter, record producer, actress and dancer. Trey (Willard Caroll Smith) , Will’s eldest son from a previous marriage, who appeared in the music video for Will Smith’s 1998 single “Just The Two of Us”, has followed his father’s footsteps by pursuing a career in the music industry.

By Investing in business

Family owned businesses have always had great potential for success. More than 30% of family businesses are passed down to the second generation. In many cases the second generation ends up making technological improvements because of modernized resources being readily available. Both Will and Jada have built wealth on their own from acting/music industry. However, their entrepreneurial and investing efforts as husband and wife are noteworthy.

  • In 2019, Will and Jada launched Westbrook, a cross-platform multimedia company that will be home to the Smith family’s original content.
  • In 2015, Will Smith and his son, Jaden, became co-founders of an eco-friendly water startup, Just Water.
  • In 2019, Will attended a TechCrunch Disrupt Conference, and invested approximately US $10,000 in Socionado, the winner of the pitch contest. Socionado specializes in content for employer branding.
  • Will is co-founder of Dreamers VC, a venture capital fund that connects Japanese corporate investors with US startups.
  • In 2013, Jada invested in Tech Startup, Bipper, an Anti-Human trafficking app that is set to fight Human Trafficking worldwide.
  • In 2018, Jada launched Red-Table talk, a Facebook watch forum dedicated to discussing a variety of perspectives. A month after its launch, it was reported that Facebook ordered another 13 episodes of the series.

By Investing in Real Estate

Their luxury property collection began in 1998, a year after their marriage, when they acquired an 8000 sq ft property in Bryn Mawr, Pennsylvania, worth $937,500. It didn’t stop there, as they went on to add a luxury five bedroom, 6 bathroom estate to their collection. Located in the exclusive Hidden Hills neighborhood of Los Angeles, this mansion is now home to their son, Jaden Smith. They also acquired several properties on the tropical island of Hawaii. Their first was acquired in 2009. It is a lavish ocean front property spread across 7 acres. They made a tidy profit on the deal, fetching $20 Million when it went up for sale in 2011. That is, $6.5 million more than they paid for it. Will owns a $2.5 Million Dollar, custom RV, he nicknamed “The Heat.” The lavish two-storey motor home was used while filming Men in black III, Ali, and The pursuit of Happyness. Nothing beats a family home, and Will and Jada ensured that among all their real estate pursuits, they will always have a place to have everyone over for Thanksgiving dinner. Their sprawling $42 Million Dollar estate, nestled in the LA county neighborhood of Calabasas, features its own zipcode, 25,000 sq. ft. of living space, nine bedrooms, a home theater, an eight-car garage, and luxe swimming pool and private recording studio. How’s that for luxury!

Like every other relationship on this planet, Will’s and Jada’s isn’t perfect, but their communication as a married couple, and their work ethic are point. They know exactly what they want, and they have made steps to ensure that they have built a strong black family that will, if nothing else, ensure that wealth is handed down throughout their bloodlines.

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10 Things Black Men Need From Black Women

BY TARYN ST.LOUIS, JULY 09, 2020

Sex is super important to men, and there’s no denying it. However, a relationship filled with passionate, mind blowing orgasms can’t compare to a wholesome fulfilling partnership. Cleaning house, cooking his favorite meals and being generally attentive to his physical needs are attributes that most black women have always thought could get the job done, but this this is far from true.

We’ve spoken to our men, and they have a message for their potential mates. They need more.

Affection

Whether it’s holding his hand in public, stroking his beard at the most random moments or massaging his shoulders when he feels tense, small intimate acts often go overlooked by women and are not often communicated by men. However, these gestures can go a long way in touching his heart. Experiment with him and find out which tender acts of affection make him feel whole.

Understanding

Do you understand your man? What are his fears? What are the greatest obstacles he faces in life? You would be surprised that most women can’t answer those questions on a whim. Knowing your mate requires honest dialogue and the best way to do this is to communicate well and do it often. Opening up to him first is the best way to get him to open himself to you.

Respect

In every relationship there will be hills and valleys. While there may be times that you feel angry toward your mate, never take the low road and utter words of disrespect. Disrespectful words and actions can do irreversible damage to relationships. Listen to him while he speaks. If you are in disagreement with his plans, respectfully suggest alternative courses of action. There are many instances where our men feel disrespected in relationships and one of the best kept secrets is that men often equate respect with LOVE.

“True love is not a hide-and-seek game; in true love, both lovers seek each other.”

Michael Bassey Johnson

Less Chatter

Women can be especially chatty sometimes. Communication is important in relationships, however, be careful not to try and involve your man in a healthy debate when he is watching his favorite show on TV or when he just walks through the door. Knowing when to speak is just as important as knowing what to say.

Belief in his abilities

Men are providers and protectors by nature. Let him know that you believe in his talents and skills and trust that he can achieve greatness. Your encouragement will mean the most to him than anyone. Make him feel like an adult, and not a child who you constantly have to look out for. Having a sense of responsibility is more important to a man than most women realize.

Acceptance

When a woman tries to change a man, he feels hurt. We aren’t speaking about changes that affect his physical health or emotional well being, but forcing him to make superficial changes like the way he cuts his beard or a cutting out a favorite phrase he likes to use is a recipe for disaster. See his flaws and love him anyway. Learn to accept his flaws so it will be easier for him to accept yours.

Appreciation and Affirmation

Complimenting your man won’t be hard if you truly admire the man that he is. Utter words of affirmation to him, and let him know you appreciate his efforts. A man is shown appreciation will go above and beyond. This isn’t about ego, but it is an encouragement to know that your deeds do not go unnoticed. “You look good in that shirt today.” “Thank you for always being there when I need you.” If these things are hard to say, it may be time to re-evaluate your biases as a woman.

Free time

Everyone needs time for themselves at some point. Our men are no different. Spending time alone watching his favorite football game can work wonders for his mental. When he gets home from work, let him unwind until HE is ready to talk. Our men need time to re-energize, regroup and reconnect with themselves. Go out and spend some time with your girlfriends and let him breathe. Healthy relationships consist of 2 individuals with their own interests as well as common interests. It’s OK to not be together all the time.

Companionship

Staying friends and also lovers goes a long way in keeping a happy, healthy relationship. Learn your mate, respond to his needs and communicate with him. Doing things together is an important factor in every companionship. Spend quiet time along together or plan weekend trips. Be the person he wants to talk to first when things go wrong. Men need to feel that you are and will remain in their corner.

Trust

Being honest with each other is of paramount importance in any healthy relationship. This is not only about trusting his fidelity, but also trusting his capabilities and his motives. Without the knowledge that his partner has placed her trust in him, a man immediately starts doubting himself. It takes time to build trust. Once you’ve made a commitment to your man, show him trust. If you feel that you are unable to trust him, seek counseling first, as opposed to spying, constantly questioning him or speaking about your suspicions with friends and family.

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Slavery helped to generate ‘The Absent Black Father’

BY TARYN ST.LOUIS, JUNE 10, 2020

Let’s focus on our black kings. The head of the household, defenders of their bloodlines. Our black men aren’t failing their families because they want to. They are failing because they weren’t taught how to be men. Sounds harsh? Well, let’s think about this. How many single mothers do you know? The cycle has been in existence for years, and even though we may try many ways to escape the reality, it dates back to slavery.

As a baby needs time and guidance in order to learn how to walk, so does a people who were ripped of every social freedom known to man.

What would life have been like for a family torn apart and sold to multiple slave owners? According to Heather Andrea Williams of University of North Carolina, https://nationalhumanitiescenter.org/, Both slaves and slave owners referred to these relationships between men and women as “abroad marriages.” A father might live several miles away on a distant plantation and walk, usually on Wednesday nights and Saturday evenings to see his family as his obligation to provide labor for an owner took precedence over his personal needs. Does this sound familiar in any way?


Many of our ancestors watched their families torn apart as children, and got accustomed to a visit from their daddy every now and then. Belonging to another human being while trying to maintain a household is a different level of sorrow. Each mother who was left with the task of raising our black men tried their best, but the anger was already there. Festering through our bloodlines, this dark stain of involuntary absenteeism and lack of healthy family dynamics rears its ugly head in all of our communities. Our men are perpetuating these social ills and our women, unfortunately, have accepted them as normal.

How do we change? Of course, there are many examples of healthy black nuclear families and single moms and dads who raise healthy, well-rounded children. So here is the answer. Lead by example. This is our only hope. If we want to see change, we must become that change. As a baby learns to walk, through patience and guidance, we must show our children what it means to have a healthy family bond.

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”

Author Unknown

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Why Caribbean Parents don’t say “I Love you.”

BY TARYN ST.LOUIS, JUNE 10, 2020

If you grew up in a Caribbean household, you probably can identify with this topic of interest. I grew up on a tiny Caribbean Island called Antigua, and my father was a huge disciplinarian. Being a police sergeant in the Royal Police Force of Antigua and Barbuda, meant that he was exposed to the realities of many social ills on a daily basis. This also meant that when it came to his children, he always feared the worst. My mother was submissive within the marriage, so there really was no recourse for me as a child. My father’s way of raising myself and three other siblings was not up for debate. We were well taken care of, provided for in the best way possible, but we always lacked one thing. Genuine affection.

Why do Caribbean parents find it so hard to be affectionate? According to sociology research, parents in collectivist societies may be more restrained in the communication of close relatedness, but demonstrate their love for children through self-sacrifice and meeting children’s needs (Lim and Lim, 2004Rothbaum and Trommsdorff, 2007Clayton, 2014).

Change starts with us

What is a collectivist society?

According to study.com, Collectivism in cultural terms refers to a culture that privileges family and community over individuals. For example, children in collectivist societies are likely to take care of elderly parents if they fall ill and will change their own plans in the event of a family emergency.

I can only speak from what I’ve observed, and it appears that the Caribbean has a widely collectivist culture. In collectivist cultures, your group identity is very important: rather than thinking of yourself simply as an individual unit, you find that the group you’re a part of is very important. Things like decision making often happen within a family, and younger members look to and respect the advice of elders.

Think about it for a minute. How many times were your thoughts and emotions brushed aside as a child? ‘Speaking up’ was never an option, and your opinions were often taken as being ‘rude.’ Let’s contrast this with individualistic societies, such as those found within the suburban and wealthy U.S. demographic.

“Telling my children I love them isn’t a habit. It is my constant reminder to them that they are the best thing that has ever happened to me.”

Toni Morrison

Individualism

An individualistic culture is quite the opposite to that of collectivism.There is a noticeable difference when it comes to communication and general ‘openness.’ Giving children the freedom to be heard changes the way they see themselves. Of course, this can cause incidences of abuse of privilege on the part of the child, so a balance must be maintained when it comes to authority. Children who are raised in individualistic societies tend to be treated as such. Individuals. They are often shown more affection, as their parents display a higher level of communication with them. This openness deepens the bond between parent and child, and it’s not ‘weird’ or uncomfortable to hug every now and then, and say… “I love you.”

How do we change?

The question is, do we need to change a part of us that has been with us for centuries? Or should we just continue to show love through our actions?

I am the mother of a 12 year old boy and despite the cultural norms and my upbringing, I am raising my son within an individualistic family dynamic. There is no discomfort when it comes to our displays of affection and it gives me joy when he randomly kisses my cheek. As a bonus, I take pride in the fact that I am preparing him for a future where he is unafraid to express love toward his mate and his children, all while taking on the serious responsibilities of manhood. This is how we break a cycle. Change starts with us.

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