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Meet the 2 year old prodigy who’s IQ is catching up with Albert Einstein’s!

With a name like hers we shouldn’t expect any less. Kashe Quest may look like your typical 2 year old, but this child wonder has earned her name being written in the world’s record books. She can name all of the elements on the periodic table, identify all 50 states within the USA by shape and location, learn Spanish and decipher patterns, according to her parents. A Los Angeles Native, Kashe was accepted into Mensa, a club only for those with the highest IQ (Intelligence Quotient) scores. She is now it’s youngest American member among 130,000 members worldwide.

(Mensa’s requirement for membership is a score at or above the 98th percentile on certain standardised IQ or other approved intelligence tests, such as the Stanford–Binet Intelligence Scales. The minimum accepted score on the Stanford–Binet is 132, while for the Cattell it is 148.)

Kashe Quest was born in 2019 to Sukhjit Athwal and Devon Quest. Athwal is of Indian heritage and Devon is African American. Devon is a UCLA School of Law magna cum laude graduate. She may not be your ordinary 2 year old, but her parents are on a mission to ensure that she experiences all the joys of childhood without being separated from a child – structured environment. Sukhjit, who is a trained educator, created her own pre-school called Modern School House. Here, Kashe will be able to interact with children her age, all while learning at her own pace.

Kashe with mother, Sukhjit Athwal

At a tender 18 months, her parents confirmed the advanced mind power of their child during a routine visit to the pediatrician. Once Kashe’s parents revealed their daughter’s skills, the doctor advised them to consult a psychologist, who confirmed her sky-high intelligence by administering a Mensa test. 

Sukhjit and Devon have taken the role of parenting Kashe quite seriously, and effectively communicating with their daughter is of high importance to them. They often shower her with words of reassurance whenever she gets frustrated doing a task. Kashe reciprocates by offering her own words of encouragement. “If she sees me trying to open a jar of pickles, she’ll come over and say, Dad I’m so proud of you!” 

Kashe’s Parents, Sukhjit Athwal and Devon Quest

Both parents admit that they have a huge responsibility on their hands raising Kashe. “She will wake up on a Saturday and say, ‘I want to do elements,’ or ‘I want to do states.’ However, this is a proud moment for them and they are more than willing to support her growth.

Fun Fact: Albert Einsten’s IQ is commonly cited as being 160, but that’s just an estimate; it’s unlikely that he ever took an IQ test during his lifetime. See 35 People with Higher IQs Than Einstein.

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Why Caribbean Parents don’t say “I Love you.”

BY TARYN ST.LOUIS, JUNE 10, 2020

If you grew up in a Caribbean household, you probably can identify with this topic of interest. I grew up on a tiny Caribbean Island called Antigua, and my father was a huge disciplinarian. Being a police sergeant in the Royal Police Force of Antigua and Barbuda, meant that he was exposed to the realities of many social ills on a daily basis. This also meant that when it came to his children, he always feared the worst. My mother was submissive within the marriage, so there really was no recourse for me as a child. My father’s way of raising myself and three other siblings was not up for debate. We were well taken care of, provided for in the best way possible, but we always lacked one thing. Genuine affection.

Why do Caribbean parents find it so hard to be affectionate? According to sociology research, parents in collectivist societies may be more restrained in the communication of close relatedness, but demonstrate their love for children through self-sacrifice and meeting children’s needs (Lim and Lim, 2004Rothbaum and Trommsdorff, 2007Clayton, 2014).

Change starts with us

What is a collectivist society?

According to study.com, Collectivism in cultural terms refers to a culture that privileges family and community over individuals. For example, children in collectivist societies are likely to take care of elderly parents if they fall ill and will change their own plans in the event of a family emergency.

I can only speak from what I’ve observed, and it appears that the Caribbean has a widely collectivist culture. In collectivist cultures, your group identity is very important: rather than thinking of yourself simply as an individual unit, you find that the group you’re a part of is very important. Things like decision making often happen within a family, and younger members look to and respect the advice of elders.

Think about it for a minute. How many times were your thoughts and emotions brushed aside as a child? ‘Speaking up’ was never an option, and your opinions were often taken as being ‘rude.’ Let’s contrast this with individualistic societies, such as those found within the suburban and wealthy U.S. demographic.

“Telling my children I love them isn’t a habit. It is my constant reminder to them that they are the best thing that has ever happened to me.”

Toni Morrison

Individualism

An individualistic culture is quite the opposite to that of collectivism.There is a noticeable difference when it comes to communication and general ‘openness.’ Giving children the freedom to be heard changes the way they see themselves. Of course, this can cause incidences of abuse of privilege on the part of the child, so a balance must be maintained when it comes to authority. Children who are raised in individualistic societies tend to be treated as such. Individuals. They are often shown more affection, as their parents display a higher level of communication with them. This openness deepens the bond between parent and child, and it’s not ‘weird’ or uncomfortable to hug every now and then, and say… “I love you.”

How do we change?

The question is, do we need to change a part of us that has been with us for centuries? Or should we just continue to show love through our actions?

I am the mother of a 12 year old boy and despite the cultural norms and my upbringing, I am raising my son within an individualistic family dynamic. There is no discomfort when it comes to our displays of affection and it gives me joy when he randomly kisses my cheek. As a bonus, I take pride in the fact that I am preparing him for a future where he is unafraid to express love toward his mate and his children, all while taking on the serious responsibilities of manhood. This is how we break a cycle. Change starts with us.

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