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Strength of a Black Woman: Divorce left her Heartbroken, but she ‘Kept it Moving’ and built her own Empire

Who would you be without struggle? We have all been shaped in some way by our experiences. At some point in our lives we can all remember at least one event that caused a shift in our paradigm; something that caused us to change the way we saw ourselves and the people around us. For Lia Abney, 54 of Hephzibah Georgia, that event was when her then husband after 15 years of marriage told her that he no longer wanted to be married. There is no quick fix to healing after a divorce, and Lia knows this all too well. However, she found the strength within herself to #keepitmoving.

After her divorce Lia moved from Korea to Georgia and started picking up the broken pieces of her life. She founded Victory Leadership Group Inc. a nonprofit organization preparing teens for success as they transition from high school into the workforce. She became motivated to do even more, and founded her very own consulting service, Lia Abney LLC aimed at empowering women (mind, body, and soul) to pursue their God-given talents. BWM visited her website and we were immediately captivated by her charisma. The passion Lia has for what she does is undeniable. During her career, she’s had the pleasure of sharing her knowledge and passion with nonprofit organizations (education, homelessness, and mental health), entrepreneurs, schools, juvenile court systems, authors/speakers and churches.

“When I moved to Georgia I did not have any family here to lean on. I had to open myself up to those whom God brought into my inner circle to create a tribe whom we all can lean on. I am thankful for families in Georgia who have adopted me as a daughter, sister, and confidant.”

When Lia isn’t out inspiring the world, you can find her reading scripture or taking in the soothing sounds of soulful Gospel or Jazz. Her studies at Capella University, where she is pursuing a Doctorate Degree in Public Administration also keep her busy. Busy is an understatement for this veteran as she is also a Management Analyst, Motivational Speaker and Published Author. She’s contributed to skillfully penned masterpieces including – Women in Public Administration: Theory and Practice – which is being used in colleges around the world, and – Perfectly Imperfect, Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of God – which allowed her to share her story of God’s love for her after divorce. Both publications were realized during a time for Lia that was most challenging and affected her self esteem. However, she was able to persevere beyond the hurt knowing that God had a plan for her to prosper and not cause her harm…(Jeremiah 29:11).

This Black Queen wears multiple ‘hats‘, but they are all set in perfect alignment with who she is. She has fully embraced her anointing… an anointing to inspire and motivate others to achieve their highest.

In 2019, Lia was awarded the Shero Arts Award in support of local arts as an author and a finalist for the 2019 Indie Award. She is actively involved in various community initiatives as well as an active board member with the Greater Augusta Black Chamber of Commerce as the VP of Business and Financial Affairs. 

What motivates this visionary? She credits much of her inspiration to some strong female leaders whom she has admired for years – Ronic West, a prime example of an industry leader (a mover and shaker as Lia describes her), and Sojourner Truth who was a constant reminder to fight for those who are unable to make their voice be heard. Lia also credits much of her resolve to #keepitmoving to her daughter Chontele, aka Yum Yum, who is a perfect example of focus and determination.

Like many entrepreneurs and black women in general who are working toward creating their own path, Lia has experienced her fair share of defeating thoughts. For this phenomenal black queen however, giving up has never been an option.

“One time, I took a leap of faith and submitted a proposal to speak at a conference. Of course, I had people ask to come along and thinking of course why not. Well, lets just say it was the worse speaking engagement. Not so much because I had someone come with me but I was actually treated horribly by another speaker not to mention other things that did not line up. I left there feeling like man…your own kind treats you like this. It really left a bad taste in my mouth. But then as clear as day…God said I never told you to take anyone with you. So the next couple of speaking engagements I journeyed alone. And nothing but blessings…I share this not to shame or bash others but to say that in your journey there is a season where you may be required to do it alone. It won’t be for ever but it is a season that I believe God is grooming us for something beyond what others can understand. Going at it alone during that season is an opportunity for you to grow without distractions. So where ever you are in your journey KEEP IT MOVING.

— Lia Abney

One of Lia’s future goals for Lia Abney, LLC  is to outreach the business internationally and continuously build strong foundations for accomplishing strategic goals. “So many businesses get stuck in the process of building because they do not clearly have a plan that will allow them to expand and grow to the next level. I want to help businesses that have found themselves stuck by establishing the right connection, communicate the right message, and commit to the process as a business owner to #KeepItMoving.”

“Discover your purpose, lock into it and don’t abandon the process to success. Use wisdom with whom you connect with and know when the season is over to just LET THEM GO. Your journey is dependent on someone benefiting from what you pour out into the earth. It’s never too late to get started. Straighten your crown “King”…”Queen” and KEEP IT MOVING!”

LIA ABNEY

Like most with such an important calling as hers, Lia’s story reminds us all to stay focused. There is no quick path to success, but through perseverance and constant self- evaluation anything is possible!

Continue to Follow Lia’s journey via Lia Abney LLC on Facebook, Instagram, Youtube and LinkedIn and Victory Leadership Group on Instagram

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4 ways Discipline can help you live a Happy and Wealthy Life

BY TARYN ST.LOUIS, 18th NOVEMBER, 2020

Many of us can remember at least one point in our lives where we felt as though we were being told what to do. We were held accountable for our actions to the point where we felt like our freedoms were being infringed upon. For some of us, we would not have realized it because it had become the ‘norm’ for us. How about school, where we had to speak using only our ‘inside’ voices when interacting with our peers? We had to learn and recite specific words, sing specific songs at specific times during the day. We were made to assemble and not speak while being addressed. Do these thoughts stir up certain images in your mind? When we entered the world of work, we soon learned that this world was not much different. We had to arrive on time or our superiors would begin keeping a keen eye on us, watching out for another slip up. We had deadlines to meet and leaving the job at our own leisure would have given us a definite red card.

Can you think of any others? These scenarios all point to one word. We will explain the meaning of the word using the definition provided in the Merriam Webster dictionary: Discipline: 2. to train or develop by instruction and exercise especially in self-control.

Some of you would cringe at the very thought of the word discipline, but don’t get lost in a word. For many others, this same discipline has been the fuel that has propelled them toward abundance, both in their personal and professional lives:

Stronger Relationships

Discipline can be viewed as training to develop one’s moral character which in turn will help to produce a particular type of behavior. Relationships should help us become better versions of ourselves. Discipline comes in handy in our relationships because it is a practice of care and respect for others and self. Some of the evidence of discipline in relationships can be found in :

  • Consistency (something that men and women so desperately crave from their partners)
  • Fidelity (self-control)
  • and quality time (through proper time management)

Higher Net Worth

If you study any billionaire in the world, you will discover that they have the most powerful discipline habits. Discipline teaches us to be systematic when working toward life’s goals. With self-discipline, you master the power to follow through with your decisions. It is therefore one of the most important requirements for success. It has always been said that the secret to success lies in your daily routine. Without discipline, there can be no routine. We would all operate as chaff in the wind, moving in every direction but up! Sound Discipline is the key to:

  • Proper time management,
  • Accountability,
  • Personal growth and many other productive assets.

If you are chaotic, that means that you don’t have a schedule for the day, week, month and year. You basically don’t have a plan. Sooner or later, life will wear you out.

Discipline means that you will do what you know you have to do, even when you are not in the mood of doing it.” 

Healthier Body

This one is certainly a no-brainer. Most trainers have reported having an uphill climb when it comes to getting some of their clients to wake up on time and make it to the gym for their daily workout. This is actually why people hire trainers in the first place. They NEED someone to hold them accountable. Otherwise, they most likely wouldn’t stick to their workout routine and their body goals would never be achieved. The same holds for healthy foods. That slice of cake looks pretty tempting, but I have to stick to my diet, so salad it is! So many of us have had these same pitfalls and are still reeling from the consequences of our lack of discipline. So much can be achieved if we practice the things that we’ve already made up our minds to do:

  • Healthier sleeping patters (stick to a schedule!)
  • Healthier Food choices (say No to that last slice of pizza and mean it!)
  • Regular workout routines (don’t skip leg day!)

Healthier Mind and Spirit

Finally, and probably the most important benefit of all is a healthier mind. A healthy mind can only be maintained if all the previous points are achieved. Lack of discipline fosters laziness, low self-esteem, unachieved goals, broken relationships and unhealthy life patterns. None of these cater to a healthy mind or spirit, but self-discipline certainly does. It can give you:

  • Higher self esteem
  • Better vibration
  • More focus

Lack of discipline can leave a trail of chaos, anger and emptiness. We must therefore make it a priority to teach the younger generation to foster self-discipline within their daily lives. We do this by example. We also do this by giving them routines to follow. Reward their efforts, and show them that action and inaction both have consequences.

Freedom and discipline are directly proportional to each other. Freedom is the basic right to do what we want. The catch is, that if we want more freedom in our lives then it must be preceded by discipline.

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